How to feel confident being the REAL you

What can it be like to shed the layers of protection you once put on and then forgot all about? And... where to start? (Oct 26th)

When I was young, I subscribed to a teenage magazine that was sent over every Tuesday. Coming home from School and checking to see the magazine was indeed in my post box was a thrilling ritual! Later, after lunch, I would sit with the magazine and read it, cover to cover, the stories which reeling in my mind for the remainder of the week.

One regular column was dedicated to stories of a more mature nature, talking about relationships, boyfriend/girlfriend topics and other stuff no one in those days spoke much about.

One story that remains forever stuck in my mind was that of a girl who was approached by one of the 'leading' groups (cliques) at the school and invited to join them. They told her that to see if she was the right match, she would have to pass a test, and in this case, in order to be accepted, she would have to sleep with one of the guys already in the group. They will come for her, they said, the following Monday.

The days passed, and with them, the turmoil. She didn't want to sleep with anyone, let alone someone she didn't have any sort of relationship with. She didn't like that the test had to be physical! Why couldn't they have asked her to do something more fitting, like pull a prank on a teacher, or fight a bear with her bare hands...?

Maybe, she thought, she should just tell them no. That she's not ready for this kind of task, and she'd rather not join them than do something she was so uncomfortable with. This was not how she imagined her first time to be, but then again, being a part of this particular group could change the whole trajectory of the rest of her days at school!

Despite praying that the day would never arrive, on the arranged Monday, at 7pm, the group stood at her door, asking her what her decision was. Pink turned into red when she finally whispered, Yes. Ok. I will do it.

To her surprise, instead of calls of cheers and excitement, her friends' faces were those of dismay and disappointment. She must have looked confused because they told her - this was the test. Not to say yes to sleeping with one of the guys, but to say NO and stand behind your integrity. Any girl can say yes to sleeping with this very popular guy, but we were looking for someone who would have the courage to say no and be ok with that!

The group walked away, and with them, the coveted invitation to join...

This story sometimes makes its way up to my conscious awareness when clients tell me how insecure they feel 'being themselves' or that they compare themselves to others, believing them to be better than they are.

The truth is, as we often say, that no one in this entire world is you, or who can 'do you' in the way that you do. When you connect with how and who you are, and when you allow yourself to follow that internal guidance, WITHOUT worrying what other people might say and judge, this is when you are starting to operate from your inner wisdom.

Just like this girl in the story who went with what she believed others wanted her to say, so are you, when you say and do things you feel others will approve of, and not realise that all people really want is a chance to bask in your true nature, quarks, and really - as you are, warts and all!

I know it can sometimes feel unsafe to show your true colours, but that's possibly a story that is more appropriate to when you were younger and didn't know how you would ever fit with society. It was better to be like everyone else than to be uniquely you. But this story belongs in the past. Now it's time to ruffle your feathers and let your inner shine so brightly that it will help you get up in the morning with a spring in your step, knowing you get to live another day being the brilliant you that you are.

So when you are next in a meeting, for example, and you look around wishing you could sound as smart, intelligent, or knowledgeable as the guy sitting across from you, remember that little you, with your ideas, approach, dreams, attitude, sense of humour and your years of being you, is just as attractive to everyone around you, and maybe even more so than that other person.

People are tired of cookie-cutter personalities. They want to see the real you, and to be honest, life is really so much richer when you let yourself out of that box and start checking in with yourself first: not will they approve of me if I did/didn't do that, but would I like myself if I went against what feels so truthfully mine?

So... will you try?

And another small point, which is super important to mention.
Being who we truly are, behind the walls, underneath every aspect of us, we worked so hard to build outward, and at the end of all that, this true self is what we came here to be. The longer we hide, the more uncomfortable we become.

At some point, we have to acknowledge that everything that happened to us in this lifetime was all part of a bigger lesson preparing us for who we are, but we were too concerned with external stuff to see, and slowly we learn that the more we protest, the more challenging life becomes.

And so, whether you resonate with what I'm saying here or not, ask yourself - what is the number one struggle I am facing right now?

And as an answer is forming in your mind, ask yourself, Am I ready to let go of
all the walls I ever put up and go deeper into the centre of myself, or is hiding still my preferred option and with that, the complete understanding I am turning a blind eye to what's been bubbling away inside me for such a long time now?

There is always a choice. Sometimes we're just not ready to see it, yet...

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Dottie's Corner

A recent picture of me in the recent fireworks we've experienced. I must admit, I don't like the noise, and I don't get the hype, but at least I found a really great place to hide when all the noise is going on.

Sometimes I opt for barking instead of hiding, but I do like that the HUUMANS are now very sensitive to what I am going through and give me extra cuddles when the explosions are coming through...

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